Heretical Realities

As guys, we were normally taught by our parents that the best way to get a girl is for us to be 'nice, gentle, caring and loving' guys.

"Just show her you care, be there for her whenever she needs you, be a romantic, send her flowers, and constantly pursue her."

"Do this persistently and one fine day, she'll [naturally] develop feelings for you and will fall for you".

Frankly speaking, back during the 50s, 60s and 70s, such 'wussy-like' techniques could work. I mean, that was exactly how our dads normally courted our moms anyway, right?

If it worked for them then, in theory, it would definitely work for us now, right?

I used to think that this should be the way. But I was dead wrong. In fact, when I first started developing interest for girls, I tried this tactic myself, and went through many a heart break along the way.

It's now the new millenium and we have to move along with times. Things change, technology change, people change,
WOMEN change; naturally the DATING SCENE has changed as well.

For me, one of the best ways for you to get the women you desire is for you to first -- Change your mindset.

Stop going after the girl.

Traditionally, it was the guy who has to go after the girl. But the "dating" scene has EVOLVED so much since the time of our forefathers, it doesn't have to be this way anymore!

In fact, if you want to be successful with women -- your mindset MUST be changed where your goal right now is to 'se.xually attract' HER to come after YOU...

... and no it is NOT impossible!

Let me give you an example...

You see, apart from teaching guys to be more successful with women, I am also an entrepreneur and I sell software products to my clients from all over the world.

For me, I tend to find it much EASIER to sell products to people who are ALREADY interested in my products or services rather than trying to cold call a prospective client and try to 'sell' it to them.

Imagine if you're a sales person who's job is to sell credit cards.

Don't you think it's much easier for you to close the sale when you have call-in or walk-in prospective clients who walks into the bank and tells you "I'm interested to apply for a credit card. What do you need?"

Same applies here when you're dating women.

You'll get far better results if you can "draw" her in & get HER interested to come after you instead.

Don't you think it'll be WAY easier to "close" her when she's ALREADY interested in you?

And exactly how do you do that? Again in business.
What differentiates a successful multi-million dollar business from a struggling or an average "so-so" one? The answer is 'differentiation'.

Successful business owners knows that in order for a customer to choose their products over their MANY other competitors, they will have to come out with a product, a business system or marketing concepts that are truly 'indifferent'.

They have to be unique and really STAND OUT from the rest. Same goes in the seduction game.

If you want to become really successful in it, you've got to differentiate yourself by becoming truly unique, but in a very EXCITING and ATTRACTIVE way. You see, if you've set your sight on a physically attractive woman, fact is that many other guys will ALSO find her attractive and would go straight on and hit on them.

On average, top-dog, hot looking women normally gets hit on at least, a minimum of 5-8 times -- every single day.

Now honestly ask yourself; what will your chances of 'scoring' with her be like if you were to act and do the EXACT SAME things like the the REST OF THE OTHER GUYS who are hitting on her that particular day? Answer - most likely, zero.

If you really want to stand above the rest of them, you have to be truly unique and INDIFFERENT in your approach.

Most guys try to "convince" a woman to feel attracted to them by giving them compliments, gifts, buying them expensive dinners, etc with the HOPE that they will fall for them.

This NEVER works. Attraction happens instantly or NOT at all.

Plain and simple. Get that DRILLED into your head.

Don't be anything like the other clueless men, and start complementing her, be all submissive to her every demand, using cheesy pick-up lines, because women, esp beautiful ones, they are IMMUNE to such wussy like guys, its just too 'easy'/boring for them. Instead, you should DEVELOP traits that women will normally find attractive in a man:

• Confidence (not acting insecure & needy)
• Being unapologetic when you're talking to her in a charming & funny way
• Not accepting bit.chy behaviour from her or anyone else
• Have strong control of YOUR composure and SHOWING to her that you're not at all INTIMIDATED by her looks & let her know that SHE has to be the one to IMPRESS you
• Flirtatious/charming character & body language

Having all these traits immediately throws women off their tracks because these are all things that they LEAST expect in their interactions with men.

I hope you're getting what I am trying to say here. Oh and here's a little something on "pick-up lines." Guys are always searching for the latest and best pick up lines.

My advice is - FORGET pick up lines. At this day and age, women automatically turn themselves "off" to pick up lines, esp cheesy ones.

They get 'hit' by them over a thousand times in their lifetime - Don't get me wrong, really, REALLY good pick lines can work at times, but it can only get you as far as the first 30 seconds and that's it.

What happens AFTER you've run out of 'cool' lines then? How are you going to "keep her interested" & keep the Game going then?

Bottom line, pick up lines are the OLD FASHIONED way of approaching women.

[About the Author]:

Simon Heong is the publisher of the Dating & Seduction Online Best Seller, the Instant Attraction Program -- the community's MOST COMPREHENSIVE program revealing the most intimate secrets on female attraction techniques and dating strategies.

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